Love and relationships

So, I no longer am in a relationship.
Very much single.
Hate every single second of loneliness, whenever I look around, I see two people being happily together, I can't help but felt a slight jab in my heart.
I once, was that happy too.But now, like the time, it passed by so quickly that the only thing I was able to salvage are the memories.
No, this is not another continuation of my depressed entries in Tabulas.

But this entry, is about what I think about relationships and 'love' nowadays.
I have seen so many couples in 19 years of living,and trust me, it's the same here in UTP.
Are they really together because of love, or are they together, because they want to be together, or they are just faraway from home,and they can't stand the loneliness, so they got together.?

Like what one of my friends who made a comment and I quote,
"Some are circumstantial couples. They get together because of situations. They just happened, the relationships are not real, just to like what the Malays would say, "MENGISI TEMPAT KOSONG DI HATI"-to fill in the emptiness of one's heart.

Believe me, I have seen so many relationships that I find them rather interesting actually. I get envious at some relationships, but some, I really pitied them. I often see couples who are pretty much in love, when they can't get enough of one another. These, are what we labelled them as 'clingy' but we can't blame them, can we? When you fell heads over heels over someone, you would wanna spend 25 hours of your time with them. You would wanna sacrifice the whole world and to be devoted to that very person. The time would actually stop and you would able to savour every single moment you spent with that particular person. Other things would no longer matter in your life, because the only motivation which keeps you going on,is your other half right now.

Then there is another type of relationship which I simply find it, ridiculous. We call them 'partners in a relationship'. There's absolutely no love, or maybe there is, just that it's not as strong as the one I mentioned above. They get together, because one seems to be able to help the other in many factors, so they 'used' one another to achieve something. I honestly, do pity these relationships because they will never, be able to experience the magic of love. Sometimes, being practical is important, but being able to drown yourself in love, is far more important.

One advice I always tell myself and the rests, do not get into a relationship, just because you WANT to do relationships. Trust me, it's not worth the time and emotions. Being in a relationship requires full commitment or else, it would only meant that you are just partners in a relationship.

To be able to love one for their qualities as well as their badpoints, is a very noble thing to do. To forget their mistakes, to forgive and to love them unconditionally. Try searching deep into your hearts and ask thyself, whether the one sleeping beside you each night, the one who held your hands during thunderstorms, the one who hugged you and shield you away from the rain, the one whom you called "Darling", "Dear", "Honeykins"..(and what sort of soapy names you call) are really the one you love. Give reasons for yourself to believe that there's actually love in your relationship, for you don't want to waste your time, 'investing' in something which might not work in the end.