Sunday, December 10, 2006

" I need to talk to you. I really do. Listen here mum,..I love you, but I am gay "
-- Michelle Krusiec, starring as Wil in 'Saving Face' on her coming to the open about her sexuality.


Well, thanks to Goh, I spend my afternoon, watching the DVD which she lend to me. I was skeptical in the beginning, looking at the cover of the DVD, I wasn't sure whether I would enjoy the movie. It turned out that I was wrong. Till now, the movie still leaves an impact on me, and I can't stop thinking about it since. The movie reminds me of Grey's Anatomy as Michelle Krusiec who took the role as Will, who's a surgeon in a hospital. I shall not review about the movie though, as you would be able to google it anytime.

I am just amazed with her, coming clean with her Mum in the movie. Being Chinese, living in a strict community in the States, she fears that her mother wasn't able to accept the fact that she's gay.
OK, let's face it. There are gays in this world, there are definitely gays in this country, and probably gays walking in our community around us. But how many come out to the open? How many out there who dares to admit their sexuality in the public?

This country doesn't permit homosexuality. It's against certain beliefs. Which is why it could be difficult for them to come out in the open. If they do, there's the society to deal with. People look at you with different kinds of look, and they judge you almost instantly if you were to come clean. So many of them, the homoS, usually do their thang behind everyone's backs, hiding their feelings, trying to fit in.
There are cases where people only realised their sexuality, after their marriage. Or maybe they choose to ignore their preferences by getting married to someone whom they do not even love in the first place. I find this rather selfish and tormenting as you are surpressing your feelings, true feelings deep within, without letting them out. How many out there, are actually happy with their current partners, because they are afraid to admit the truth?

I have friends who found the partners they love and want. They have pledged to stay together forever, even when they are not recognised by the society and the government. They do not need papers to prove their love, certainly they couldn't careless about the people around them. I admire their courage to stand out and stand tall, and tell the whole world that they are, who they are.

Sometimes, I think the people should learn to deal with all this. Ignoring and pretending that it's not there, doesn't make it go away. I know there are certain beliefs which thinks homosexuality is a big sin or some sort like that.., but what can you do if there are already such cases happening now? Just because these people are different, and they chose to love differently, doesn't make them less humanly than all of us. They are just doing what they are supposed to do: Love.


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